How to be a secondary virgin (II)

Temilolu Okeowo

My dear daughter Temilolu Oluwakemi,

Your first outing in this New Year-“How to be a secondary virgin” is a real masterpiece. And knowing your pedigree as I do your dear great father- Late Sir Taiwo Okeowo will be musing, clapping and dancing in the “heavenly realms.” What a beautiful heritage! Keep matching on.

Papa (Sir) Godwin O. Adewunmi

Dear Aunty Temilolu,

I am happy to tell you that my wonderful fiancée remains a virgin at age 28. To be candid, I’m so blessed to have her in my life and we have been in this relationship since 2010 and decided to stay off sex. Please encourage other girls to present themselves as precious gems to the men. Thanks.

Oladayo Okunola

Dear nubile Okeowo,

Once the hymen is sexually torn, the female is forever deflowered; nothing like “secondary virginity.” I strongly submit!

A.JOSHUA

I could almost hear Mr. Joshua screaming his assertion into my ears! I published his mail exactly the way he sent it. And I’ll address his opinion. I daily get a lot of messages and calls from girls, parents and men who share our opinion about virginity. Believe it or not, the male folk would prefer to have a lady who is untouched and unspoiled. So, please stop dulling yourself and sleeping with guys because you are in love. Take it or not, it devalues you! God is the master planner and scripter of this column, He will enlighten us more today.

You’d recall I earlier defined virginity as a state of being untouched, unexplored or unspoiled but I never mentioned the hymen which is a membrane which partially closes the opening of the vagina and whose presence is traditionally taken to be a mark of virginity. The hymen could be torn as a result of sexual intercourse, sports, gynecological reasons and so on. Now, do we call a girl whose hymen is intact but who performs all other acts of ungodly sex a virgin? And on the other hand, there are girls whose hymens have been broken by other means but any form of sexual activity and yet they’ve never kissed a guy. You’d recall a few months back, I stated and in fact wrote an article on chastity beginning from the heart!

I also defined a secondary virgin as a person who, after having engaged in sexual intercourse, makes a commitment not to be sexually active again until marriage. I underlined the above term because it entails all forms of satisfying your body sexually and it all starts from the heart. This is why the first tip I gave on becoming a secondary virgin is MENTAL RENOVATION!

My darling sisters, I know you understand me and have started working on your mind. You just keep at it and watch the wonderful wonder God will make out of your life!

2.  PRAYER

Every sexual intercourse carries a heavy spiritual significance and not only creates a covenant that bonds two people together, it forms ungodly soul-ties, transfers a lot of evil and virtues from one life to the other. All of these are one of the devil’s ploys to thwart our glorious destinies. You have to pray for the fullness of the spirit of God to be able to suppress the desires of your flesh and enable you to stick to your decision to become a secondary virgin. You need to pray out all the evil that may have been transferred into your life and recover your lost virtues. You also need to pray to disconnect yourself from your sexual partners. Sigh! Girls…girls…girls…pray, pray ooo! And be holiness personified so that God can answer you quick, quickly! (Please visit my blog). Now, check this out-

“I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one;”

John 17:23

“I” represents Jesus, “thou” represents God. And that we may be made perfect in one! You can be perfect says the one who has the final say over our lives. Beware of wet blankets. Your star must shine o! Start praying!

To be continued

The Girls Club of Nigeria is aimed at influencing a positive change in the female folk and re-orientating the Nigerian girl. Amongst other things, to promote and enhance the development of girls by instilling a sense of self-worth, competence, usefulness, belonging and influence while of course restoring traditional moral values and encouraging the girls to toe the paths of righteousness. If this generation can make amends, the next generation will come out clean. Don’t you think so? I love you all and I think you are all wonderful sisters!

For more inspiring articles and prayers against sexual perversion (masturbation, lesbianism, addiction to pornography and immoral thoughts etc.) please visit my blog www.temiloluokeowo.wordpress.com

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Dear girls,

As designed by God, your virginity is the bedrock of your destiny. It is your spiritual beauty. It carries the star, potential and talent which God created with you to make you unique. It is the star in your sky. Please don’t pollute your destiny. The world is waiting for your star to shine! Your curiosity about sex and the way your body feels is normal. However, there’s so much you need to know which may eventually condition your mind and calm your desires. For now, DON’T dabble into it please.

Source: Nigeria Punch

Regards: Hamzatab